How To Go Raw – The Easy Way | When Your Partner Doesn’t Eat Raw
As my Scottish friend Emma says in her awesome ebook “Me Raw:You Cooked”; in theory you might think will pose a problem in your household when you decide you want to make some changes to your diet, but it doesn’t have to be this way.
So many people have learnt the hard way when they have decided they want to make diet changes whilst their partner feels left behind, because let’s face it, sharing a meal with the one you love is ingrained in who we are. We eat to celebrate many occasions from birthdays, to weddings to promotions and just to enjoy each others company or even to get to know each other on a first date.
And changing the way you share food with your loved could lead to confusion, defensiveness, arguments or just plain ignorance.
So here are some tips for those of you that are not BOTH jumping head first into a new diet regime;
- there is no reason to go all or nothing into the whole raw food diet change. As mentoned in the previous post, a 100% raw diet change is not recommended if this is something you are looking for long term. In 6 months time, you’ll still be here, so why try and do it all immediately, take baby steps and be gentle with yourself (and your partner).
- perhaps don’t announce that you are making these gradual changes to your diet, just start slowly introducing more wholefood, raw options onto your dinner menu subtley. If your partner is someone you suspect would be very open to discussing and joining you on the journey, then perhaps make a mention, but until you have some practice behind you, then maybe lead by example or just go quietly on your way, until you have a stronger foundation.r
- serve dinner in a buffet style giving everyone in the family a choice in being able to serve themselves their portions of each meal component and include a raw and cooked component. Ie raw salad and cooked pasta. By not forcing your family to each the raw meal, they are free to take their own serving and hey, if they leave it, there’s more for you later
- try and plan meals that can be adapted for raw or cooked. A good example is pasta. I usually make a cooked pasta sauce and serve it atop cooked wheat pasta for my husband and on sprialised zuchinni for me, to make a 50/50 cooked/raw meal. I’ve also made veggies burgers this way, where I baked them for my husband and dehydrated them for me, serving his on a wheat bun and mine on a lettuce or cabbage leaf with usual salad toppings.
- try and create a raw version or your partners favourite meal ie pizza or cheesecake, or better still, pick out some potential recipes you think your partner may enjoy or ask them to pick one out and make it together
- don’t try to force your new found passion onto your partner. This can be very hard to do when you are feeling great results and only want to share it with them too, but you might find they feel cornered and maybe even judged for their way of eating
- Brings me to my next point, don’t pass judgement your partner’s food choices, as it can push them further away and make them less inclined to want to sample your way of eating. It could also push them away emotionally.
- Declare one day a week raw food night, and make it fun and get your partner involved. Find out what foods they really like and incorporate them into a all or semi raw meal.
- Eating more raw food can change the way you eat ie I don’t usually eat Breakfast Lunch and Dinner the way I used to, I now eat only when hungry, and if this means that you are not hungry when your partner is, still take the time to sit with them whilst they eat their meal. It’s not the food you share but the time, so still make sure you have that time together.
- If you are just starting out eating more raw food, it’s going to be a transitional time for you, so be flexible and keep it light and enjoyable, if you remain rigid and stubborn, it will not only be bad for your relationship but also for your digestion!
- Be patient, soon enough, your partner may want some of what you are having, when they see how great you feel and look they might be more inclined to try some of your raw food, but if they don’t, don’t worry, this is your journey and if you keep the above ideas in mind it should keep you close whilst you embark on this change for the positive.
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